Hello 2018! Here’s a Few of my Resolutions…
Woohoo its 2018! If I’m being honest, 2017 was a hard year but I have high hopes for this year. Some people don’t do New Year’s resolutions but I’ve always loved the idea of a new year being a clean slate to better yourself. I love making goals for myself and my family. Part of that is because making goals to me means making lists and boy do I love lists.
I woke up yesterday morning, poured myself a cup of coffee, and grabbed a pen and my new notebook. I swear nothing brings me joy quite like a new notebook. Last year I tried bullet journaling, which I really liked, but the journal I bought was too big and I spent way too much time making everything look pretty, rather than focusing on using the journal. This year, I bought a much smaller notebook and am loosely bullet journaling in a way that works for me.
I tend to dream BIG but have trouble actually following through on things. This blog has been so much fun but honestly a struggle as well, because I let myself get pulled in so many directions that I have a hard time seeing something through to the end. For my resolutions this year, I came up with my goal and then wrote down three specific things that will help me achieve that goal.
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Personal Goal: Develop a self-care routine
This is something that I massively struggle with. I let myself get so burnt out that I completely breakdown before seeking help or taking care of myself. I promised myself that 2018 would be the year that I stopped putting myself last. So many people talk about self care and it truly looks and means something different to everyone. For me, it’s taking time to be just Gabby. Not mama, wife, blogger, friend, daughter, homeowner, or IGer (if that’s a thing). Just Gabby. This is not going to be easy for me to do so I came up with a few specific things to get me going in the right direction.
1. No phone after 10 PM
If I can manage this for more than a week it’ll be a miracle but I’m going to try. My goal is to replace my phone with reading. I love to read but rarely find or allow myself time to do it. Well that’s changing. Bye bye Instagram and Sudoku until my eyes burn and it’s well past midnight and hello to all of my wonderful books. I’m putting down my phone cause Instagram will still be there in the morning and taking time to do one of the things I love most.
2. Set up my morning the night before
I’m not a morning person but I’m working on it. I’ve learned that if I do as many things as possible the night before, I’m much better off in the morning. For me this means, setting the coffee pot, laying out my vitamins, writing a to-do list for the next day, picking out my clothes, and going to bed with a clean kitchen. Having all of these things done and ready for me makes it a lot easier when I stumble bleary-eyed into the kitchen the next morning.
3. Learn a new skill/hobby
I’ve always been envious and fascinated by people who can do calligraphy. I love the flow of the words and all of the swoops and flourishes. It’s been something I’ve wanted to learn for a long time, so ya know what? I’m going to learn calligraphy this year. Fingers crossed that by putting on my blog for all of you to read I’ll actually do it. I purchased these books to help me master the art of beautiful handwriting.
Family/Relationship Goal: Spend more quality time together
I feel like most people have this goal but hear me out. For the entirety of my relationship and marriage to my husband, we’ve either been long distance or dealing with military deployments. Prior to this past Summer, we had never spent more than 60 days together in a row. That all changed when we moved to Maryland and he got transferred to a land unit with no deployments or overnight duty obligations. This is great but we haven’t done a great job of spending quality time together, as a couple or as a family. I really want this to change this year and here’s how I’m going to do it.
1. No technology during dinner
We’ve gotten into a really bad habit of having the TV on for my son while we eat. I’ll often be on my phone checking Instagram while my husband watches videos on Facebook. We don’t have good conversations and that needs to change. So no more electronics during dinner time. Either we talk or stare at each other awkwardly while we eat. Hopefully it’s the first option.
2. Biweekly date nights
My husband is amazing. He truly is. He never says no to a project or idea of mine and knows how to deal with my stress way better than I do. He’s wonderful and he deserves the best of me more often than the worst. We now live in a place with family nearby who love our little guy and are happy to watch him so it’s time to bring back date nights. Every date night doesn’t have to be going out somewhere. I’m all for watching Stranger Things on the couch and drinking cocoa as long as it’s intentional. Phones down, no parenting conversations, and lots of cuddling. We deserve some us time.
3. Read to my son every day
We read a lot, but sometimes the day or week just gets the best of me and it’ll have been like four or five days since I’ve read to him. I’m a bibliophile and I’m determined to make my son a book worm like his mama. I need to take a step back for the chaos of everyday life and make time to read to him every single day. He has hundreds of books and nothing beats him crawling into my lap and snuggling in for a good truck book. If you’re looking for some recommendations check out my post on our favorite vehicle themed books for kids.
Work/Professional Goal: Have my blog financially contribute to our income
This one is kind of a doozy. Lordy, do people say doozy? I swear I’m like 95 at heart. Anyway, I really started this blog because I love to write and I’m passionate about home decor, motherhood, and of course military life but I want it to become more. I want to be able to financially contribute to our family while staying home with my little guy and running our home. This is definitely my loftiest goal but if you don’t dream big what’s the point of even dreaming right?
1. Using my organization to achieve manageable goals
I love organization! So much so in fact, that I spend so much time getting myself organized that I don’t actually utilize my organization. For example, I’ll spend hours picking out and writing in a new planner or making a record long to-do list, but that’s where it stops. I need to use my love for organization to actually help me get my never ending to-do list done.
2. Connect and work with other like-minded bloggers and companies
Part of my reason for starting my blog was to connect with people and I want to expand on that this year. I love working with other bloggers and collaborating with companies and hope to make that the real basis for this blog. If you’d like to work together in some way let me know! We can grow our blogs/businesses together.
3. Set clear goals for each month
Obviously the end goal is to make money and provide for my family but what about the smaller monthly goals? At the start of each month I’ll look back at the previous month, figure out what worked and what didn’t. From there I’ll set new, small goals for the month. Do I hope to have 2,000 Insta followers by the end of the month or develop a new opt-in incentive? These small goals make me feel like I’m truly making progress towards my overall goal.
Phew, putting that all down on “paper” makes me feel like I’ll be held accountable, which is a great thing. My goals are only part of my new year plan. Another part is getting organized. My son is getting older and getting involved in activities, we have a much bigger house to manage and are constantly doing projects, and I have my blog. All of these changes mean more organization is needed. I’ll have a post for you in a few days on how I’m getting organized and some of my favorite tools and products!